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don't let the moment pass

1/24/2014

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Every minute of your day consists of little, itty, bitty moments to either nonchalantly miss or to purposely be aware of and embrace.

The choice is YOURS.

How little are the moments?

A smile from a co-worker.

The first star in the sky.

The small sliver of a green & purple crocus pushing up through the melting winter snow.

Silence in the dark morning.

Your cat snoring.

The awkward moment between you and a stranger.

First time meeting a new person, but you feel an instantaneously strong, deep, soul filled connection to them, but can't put your finger on how or why?

Or.....

How about 1 single e-mail, in the midst of hundreds that flood our boxes every week, and for some every day?

Do you sometimes skim through, delete without opening, trash it before reading it?

I know, I do.

Sadly or not, I have got into the habit of subscribing to every business, blogging, entrepreneur, coaching e-zine that catches my eye. The fancy design layout, cool color schemes, catchy catch phrases (yes they caught me).

I get sucked in with the endless articles on marketing, research, sales, coaching, business etc. Probably like many of us do. Always wanting to learn more and more and more...

Two things:

Constantly gathering info. is a distraction, and a quaint way of procrastinating.
(Fabulous form of resistance...Which I'm working on, I swear!)

And you end up losing site of the blogs, coaches, and folks you really enjoy connecting with, in the clutter of stuff, we humans have a tendency to collect.


Fate, destiny...My good fortune.  I happened to not be in a quick lets get through these e-mail kinda moods this morning or I would have missed a precious moment.

A lovely blog, that I have been following for about 3 years now, is sadly closing her doors. Time for change, new direction and a new
journey.

It happens. Life is about clearing your path as you go along. Keep that rock, dig up that one and move it over there. Build a little bridge, you get the gist... We create as we go, as we learn and as we begin to have more faith and trust in ourselves.

I totally get why Rootsofshe.com with beautiful Jenn Gibson will no longer be visiting my e-mail box on a weekly basis.  I am beyond ecstatic
for all she has shared over the years. Her wisdom, kindness, love and the most gentle heart. Though I will miss her e-mails, I wish her every wonderful thing life has to offer.

The craziest part of this, would simply be that in 3 years of reading her blog, I have never left a comment, sent an e-mail or FB message. I just read them, weekly. Always with the feeling of being more true to me. Which is what she offered...Beautiful moments of self-love. The Self LOVE Goddess.

Today, Because I didn't miss this moment, I was able to leave a comment on her blog, because I sincerely want her to know that she touched many hearts and lives. In some of my darkest moments, she showed me how to love me MORE, because she put her heart into ever word she wrote.

Don't let a moment pass, the smallest moments truly are the ones to breath deeply into your heart. For all those bloggers out there who are struggling (like me), don't give up. Keep on writing your soul out! Believe it or not, you are touching someone's life.

And if you are following a blog, don't wait to tell them you think they are doing a dynamic job or they have inspired or helped you some how. Let em' know
. Small moments are really the biggest moments and being more aware of NOW will help to not miss a single one!

Lots of ((HUGZ))
Shelley





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Alex Mill link
1/26/2014 06:41:42 am

Same goes to you Shelley. Very profound and made me cry.

My wise teacher at the monastery held a memorial service for herself for her 60th birthday many years back. Hundreds of people who loved her from around the world came to celebrate, sing songs, say kind words about her, and eat a delicious catered meal of foods she liked. All while she participated in the background as though she was not there.

I thought it was a beautiful expression of what you are pointing at in your post: don't take for granted the love until it's gone. We need to be bowing down in gratitude and kindness every moment in our lives for all we have been given. Yell, "Yes, Thank You, I love you" repeatedly throughout our days. How could we possibly be miserable if we remembered to do this?

Deep gratitude for touching me today!

In lovingkindness,
Alex

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Shelley
1/30/2014 11:42:33 am

Thank you Alex for such loving and kind words. I love the story of your wise teacher. That is such an incredible gift to everyone! I'm so inspired by the many stories I have read through our LYL group. Such strength, wisdom, humor, love and raw, deep honesty. I absolutely agree that there needs to be more "Yes, Thank you, I love you" every day, all the time. Life does get crazy, but that doesn't mean we have to go along for the ride. I'm learning that more and more. We all have our journeys but the best part is sharing it with incredible, loving folks like you!!

<3 Shelley

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Erin link
1/27/2014 11:43:39 am

Beautifully put, Shelley. Because I do so much work and social life online, I have been accused of behaving like the Great Oz who thinks they can safely manipulate everything behind the scenes rather than directly engage with the world. I have also been called "emotionally naked" in writing, yet inhibited in person. Typing 120 wpm, faster than I can think, does not help the situation. Reading your blog post reminded me that even online spaces can be sacred and blogs are extensions of very real, breathing, fascinating people who can impact real reader's lives, and with that responsibility comes more thoughtfulness than I sometimes give my "public journal." Much gratitude to you for extending a hand to work with me. : )

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Shelley
1/30/2014 11:54:07 am

Awwhhh, Thanks Erin!

It seems to me the more I put out there of my true heart, my true voice, the more magic and love flows back to me. Maybe kinda crazy sounding, but I get this warm feeling in my stomach, a kind of calm and ease when I am surrounded by such wonderful, hearted people like you!

It's easy to forget with so many subscriptions, people we follow, companies we watch, writers who inspire us that there really are people under it all. It's that there is so much to consume and take in, so how much do we really think about the person who actually wrote before we are on to the next e-mail? I know for the most part I didn't give it much thought! I do now.

So funny that when you mention being "emotionally naked" that's honestly not something I saw. Which is why I checked out your other site, and was like wow, love her ideas and passion behind why she wants this. What it means to you. I felt it the moment I went on to that site.

I am thrilled we connected, I totally believe in your dreams, and think it's an incredible idea that will help so many people in an obvious time of crisis. Like I said, I wish you were around 10 or 3 years ago, when I was losing a loved one to brain cancer. Your love and understanding would have been like a saving grace, and I know it will be for others in need!

Can't wait to start!!
Shelley
Ps...Sorry for the book!

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