My passion, what I stand for, what I believe in with every cell of my body....
Is that where ever you are in life, is where you are meant to be.
The struggles that you are dealing with right now, are there to give you a very valuable gift.
That gift may come in the form of a lesson. What not to do? How to do something differently? Whatever that gift is, it's up to you to choose whether to love it, embrace it and learn from it OR get stuck in it, use it as an excuse to not propel forward and maybe even be downright angry and resentful. Lessons are gifts that teach us strength, courage, clarity and truth. How you choose to utilize it is truly your call.
You may think that all your hardships are contributing towards you not moving forward, but from experience I can assure you, the only thing stopping you from going forward is your resistance to accepting that gift and learning that lesson. The mind in itself is amazingly strong and if given the chance your fears that walk around in your mind will keep you stuck for a very long time!
It's amazing the tricks our mind will play to keep us in our comfort zone, even when we absolutely resent that zone. Because uncertainty will always be scarier than certainty, even when it's sucking the life out of you.
I get it...20 years of awesome playing with the devil of certainty and security. That precious little demon almost sucked every last breathe of hope out of me. It dwindled my self-esteem down to zero. I was so out of focus and spinning out of control, and had absolutely no idea how to stop it.
STOP: Did you happen to catch that??? I had NO idea how to STOP it???
Re-read it. Ask yourself where in your life right now are you spinning out of control? Do you really have no idea how to stop it? Or do you have momentary brainstorms but because your life is so chaotic you don't stop and listen and act out those brainstorms. Is it easier for you to talk and vent about how horrible your life is? That you are never going to get ahead? Life is always going to be one giant struggle? Do you feel completely powerless?
The really hard truth for most people to see is that if you want to take back your life, you simply take it back. You stop following other peoples rules and expectations of you and create your own expectations for yourself. Those are the only true expectations you need to abide by. If life isn't working the way you want, than get out of bed in the morning and do it differently! Most folks don't stop to figure out how to gain control because if they actually see it and don't act on it.... Then they have no-one to blame for their messy life other than themselves...
I'm gonna ask a few killer questions. Because seriously that's what a coach does. If I'm not making you squirm, than we are not aiming for the results that you need to improve the quality of your life.
Are you ready to squirm???
I have written a question, followed by a hypothetical answer. It's so you can see how the process goes.
Where is your life out of control? Ex. Financially falling behind - Which is making me depressed, sad and scared.
What is the biggest single contributor to it being out of control? I don't have enough income coming in to cover my bills.
What would I need to right now to change that? An extra $500 a month.
What ideas can I do to get that extra $500? Brainstorm time: Yardsale, second job, start a side business, house cleaning, dog walking, baby sitting, copy writing, sell on etsy or ebay, ask for a raise, look for a better paying job.
Right there without any thought I scribbled off 10 doable ideas that could generate income if a little creativity, focus and work was put into any of them.
The above are income generators. You can also creatively reduce your debt. Therefor bridging the $500 dollar gap. Some of my personal favorites is living simpler. Creating a budget. Calling credit card companies to get my interest rate lowered, cutting out the extra crap I don't need, sell the second car, increase your car insurance deductible. Those are just a few more ways you can come up with extra money.
It really tears at my heart when I see awesome good hearted folks struggling with money, chaotic lives and depression because they can't seem to get out of the big black hole they are in. I want to help. I want to give them step by step instructions to building a new life. I wish I could hold their hand and walk them through each process.
Here's the clincher....
I want to show you, hold your hand and help you every step of the way. But I can't do the work for you.
It's like bringing the horse to water. You can't make the precious horse drink the water no matter how much you love it.
So I will hold your hand and show you steps....
But can you assure me that you are up to really changing and creating an impact in your life???
Are you willing to do the work?
Put in the hours?
Close everyone in your life off at scheduled times to create, plan and strategies?
Do you have what it takes to truly put yourself above everyone and everything?
Will you stop making excuses and put yourself on the line?
Are you willing to hold yourself accountable?
Do you embrace learning new things?
Can you see other perspectives and be open to how they can propel your life forward?
It's a lot to ask, I know.
But YOUR life is worth a lot!
What you give to you in turn comes back fully to the people you love the most. Are you up to the challenge?
Do you want the best life for you and your family? How far are you willing to go to get it?
I get hardship and being scared shitless...
But I'm telling you right now, it's get over it or stay stuck in being broke, depressed and miserable.
The call is yours.
I work exclusively with women who are struggling with adversities. I help them build courage to create a business from their soul, to provide stability to themselves and loved ones.
My ultimate goal is to provide affordable coaching for anyone who needs it.
I will help you START a business and create a ridiculously strong life foundation to build it on!
If this sounds like something you would love and you are up for the challenge, please send me a message! I'm here for you, I get and feel where you have been!
From my heart to yours,