how to know if fear is in the drivers seat?

how many times have you wanted to do something right now, this very moment and you were ready to throw all caution to the wind, and go for it?

whatever it takes, sell your stuff, re-arrange your life, borrow, or beg. somehow you were going to make this happen?

the excitement in your heart is telling you to go for it. even your logical side was won over by your heart. it's telling you that this could be a life changer, deal breaker, beginning of all things great. your brain is in on the hype and the two are working together to pull off this latest and greatest venture.

i'm thinking most people would say, life is about risk taking. great strides are made by reaching out of your comfort zone. life begins outside of your own bubble. and the zillion fabulous quotes that go along with risk, comfort zones, change, chances, choices and life in general.

then something happened, i let 24 hours slide by. i didn't think about the new venture i wanted to take. i didn't talk to anyone about it. i allowed myself to stay neutral and just sit with the silence. there was a moments burst of excitement again, when i spoke with my daughter about it, and i could feel myself going back into, wouldn't it be so amazing! and then i stopped

yes, it would be amazing. there is no doubt that some things in life we just know in our hearts, we will do. but that doesn't necessarily mean today.

risk taking doesn't mean acting irresponsibly. reaching outside of your comfort zone, doesn't require monstrosity of leaps and bounds. excitement isn't dependent on one set of circumstances. dreams don't stop happening because you are cautious.

how do i know that my caution isn't fear taking the drivers seat?

because i am writing this. i'm making a plan. i'm publically committing to this endeavor for a year from now. i'm verbally saying YES to what I want, and being responsible to my own finances and where my life is at this moment. (ps. i'm building a house..HUGE commitment).

because i am still moving forward. i'm creating a plan. not at this moment, with a deadline, is different than: not at this moment, without a deadline. i'm committing. my dreams aren't stopping. fear is in the drivers seat when you stop pursuing your goals. when you stop asking, what's the next step? when you relinquish your power over your obstacles. that's when you know fear is doing the driving.

patience and honesty are keys to throwing fear out the door. be patient, never lie to yourself. step up and put yourself out there to keep yourself fully committed to your desire and you will continue to be the driver of your own life!

for me, risk taking isn't about being irresponsible. it's about being calculated. the biggest risk takers in business will tell you that they only take risks on what they believe in, and whether it is going to benefit them now.

key: benefit them now

as much as i want this endeavor NOW, i know in my heart i am not in a place to be fully committed to this and without my full attention i would not reap the benefits of this amazing program.

so i ask you before you take risks, to be sure you are fully committed on all levels. financially, emotionally, spiritually, mentally, and physically. are you completely prepared to dedicate everything you are into your next big thing? if your not there yet, but know without a shadow of a doubt that it is something you absolutely want. step back.

get prepared. if it's something that has that much meaning to you, isn't it worth it to be able to be fully engaged.

should you make the choice to wait, because you are fully aware your not ready. you have made a wise, and brilliant choice. you have been brutally honest with yourself. which is huge and most people lack in the ability to tell themselves the hard, crappy truths.

so now what? your waiting. your being responsible. your slightly disappointed, because it sounds so exciting!

keep your momentum building.

momentum is almost as good as the real deal. every day you get to dream about it. plan for it. sleep with it. feel it. imagine what it will be like. then when the magical time comes, you will reap even more benefits from it, because you have committed so deeply to this program. you know what you want to get out of it. you know how hard you will have to work. you know what direction your headed in. anticipation is a wonderful, and fulfilling feeling. savor it. feed your soul on it. you will greatly value the true gift you receive at the end.

so today, i'm not registering for b-school. i adore marie forleo. she is simply awe inspiring. but in my heart, i know i'm not quite where i need to be, to get the most from a program that she puts so much value into. and i want to gain as much from all her hard work as possible, out of respect for her time, knowledge and kindness. and for myself to grow my business to a profound and beautiful space where i can serve others fully!

the mental preparation has begun. every tuesday marie tv. i will continue to commit to growing my blog, right here through LYL. financially i will have saved the $2000 for her program so debt is not where i am starting from. ($40 a week, so doable). i will write about getting clear. crystal clear on my profit clarity. physically will be checking out our local YMCA for a membership, because i want to be in tip top physical health before i go into overdrive. spiritually staying on top of my meditation, no slacking! thinking of Yoga?and emotionally continuing to be super honest with myself, about and beyond everyone and everything.

life is about taking calculated risks that you believe in 100%. if you don't believe, your not ready. be honest and love yourself enough to know it's ok to give yourself the gift of time. after all patience truly is one of the greatest virtues.

thanks for reading!
lots of hugs
shelley

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